Friday, October 30, 2015

Personal opinion/ramble - Being strong while being JUDGED.

HAPPY FRIDAY!!!!

I was going through pinterest - looking for inspiration for the million different personality flaws I possess. 
{true story}
I CAME ACROSS this QUOTE. 


It spurred emotion.  
...THAT is how I know I have to write. 

So it started as a FACEBOOK POST on my personal page. 
THEN I moved it over to my Unity Page - simply cause it had the word ART in it. 

NOW it has become a BLOG POST INSTEAD because MY HEART has SO MUCH to say about it. 

I have fallen.  SO MANY TIMES. no big secret there. WE ALL HAVE.  yes?

We make SUCH HORRIBLE decisions from time to time.  
COMPLETELY out of CHARACTER. 
....sometimes hurting only ourselves - and sometimes hurting the people we love along the way.

DON'T YOU HATE it when that happens?!!?!
dang it.

WE all get selfish.  WE all do things we wish we hadn't.  WE all fall out of character when going through difficulties.  WE all are just doing our very best, where we are with what we have going on. 

But here is the deal.....WHEN WE FAIL. or FALL. 
THAT is OUR JOURNEY. 
THAT is OUR lesson to learn.
IT IS necessary FOR our story to un-fold, simply to get to where we are going. 
NOT ANYONE else's. 

Don't you THINK perhaps the fall, the recognition of the fall, the apology to those we hurt -  all in  itself -  is ENOUGH?


But there are ALWAYS those people that SIT AND STARE at the situation.
CAN NOT or simply WILL NOT let it go. 
THEY JUDGE YOU.
over and over and over.....
and KEEP trying to bring to a spot you have attempted to leave behind.


Ridiculous close minded JUDGEMENT of another PERSONS LIFE is HANDS DOWN my BIGGEST PET PEEVE. 

We screw up. 
ALL OF US. 

WHY do we hold ourselves victim to people who choose to act as judge and jury that have NO CLUE how to be tender and forgiving and understanding? 

 They STAND on the OUTSIDE of a situation and JUDGE, relentlessly.
These are the people who beat YOU UP by STATING THEIR OPINION and EXPECTING others to accept it as their truth, too.
We ALL have these people in our lives.

I LIKE to refer to them "FIRST LIFERS"
You know the ones. 

They give themselves the illusion that they are SOME HOW BETTER because THEY would never make the same mistake. 
They sit emerged in self-loathing while ripping apart the poor soul that is simply trying to put the pieces back together again. 

So sad. 

 HOW can we even begin to understand the actions of ANYONE when you have not lived ONE MOMENT of their life?  
WE don't get to judge anyone else but OURSELVES - based on our experiences in life.

MY little opinion is this. 
IF you don't want to be involved with people that make decisions different than you do? 
simply don't.
THAT is the beautiful thing about life - you don't have to ACCEPT anyone into your life that you don't want to.
BUT for the LOVE of LIFE - let people make decisions for themselves without ridicule. Let people be imperfect and take the steps to recover without consistent judgement and half hearted opinions. 

JUDGING the deemed "un-acceptable" actions of others -  SPEAKS LOUD AND CLEAR about your character.  

Life is really pretty simple regarding the people you WANT in your life.  

LIVE and LET LIVE. 
then....
LOVE {regardless}
.

{make mistakes, get up, try again. over and over and over.  let the judge and jury play their own little game  - while your world expands...knowing better, doing better.}



SHAMELESS Unity PLUG after that little RAMBLE! :) 

Shop AWAY lovely stumbling, beautiful, non-judging souls!

LOTSA PRETTY at UNITY! :) 




6 comments:

AJ said...

great quote, and yes- have fallen, AND been judged AND survived. Biggest lesson I ever learned was your quote. ;) I hope this is just you speaking and not out of a personal event happening at the moment. <3

Julie Curtis said...

Your blog touched me so deeply! I have been there, i am there and I will be there again. I sit judged by people in my life everyday. I just started my blog and putting myself out there in the card making world and it's a scary step because you just don't know what people will say about your life passion and the cards you make. I will continue to learn and pay and hope it all goes well. I try not to focus on the judges and their negative world.

Julie Curtis said...

Your blog touched me so deeply! I have been there, i am there and I will be there again. I sit judged by people in my life everyday. I just started my blog and putting myself out there in the card making world and it's a scary step because you just don't know what people will say about your life passion and the cards you make. I will continue to learn and pay and hope it all goes well. I try not to focus on the judges and their negative world.

Noelle Reese said...

I will personally kick the ass of anyone judging you. Being judgemental is so bad. I pray noone ever calls me judgmental. I'd rather be called names. ♡♡♡ Your post is beautiful ♡♡♡

Wendy McCarthy said...

A great blog post, thank you! X

sharon g said...

Angela, I like what you had to say. My daughter got pregnant almost 1 yr ago (unmarried, living with her boyfriend for 7 years or so), and I was REALLY hesitant to tell people. I waited and waited because I just didn't want to be judged by everyone who has kids who are "perfect". But once I actually told people, they took it really well. Some were just silent/ didn't know what to say, but didn't say anything rude. YAY!!! Others were very happy for me---I was going to be a gr, gr, grandma (I still have trouble thinking of myself in that way, even though I have been preparing myself for it for maybe 15 years---women in my family have issues with being a grandma). Anyway, people are usually very kind about these sorts of things these days--it's so common! You are going to love that baby more than you ever imagined you could. As soon as my daughter had her sweet baby boy, I was in love. Big time. And I'm not someone who really cares for babies. But almost 12 months later, he is THE best thing in my life. I LOVE HIM, and you will LOVE your new little grand baby. You will be the prettiest grandma I have ever seen!!!!

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